From “The Why Cafe” to “The Why Bar”
Thinking, writing, drinking with Philosopher…
Yesterday I was reading a book called “The Why Cafe”, this book is discussing 3 main questions.
1. Why are you here?
2. Do you fear death?
3. Are you fulfilled?
When we spend many years studying hard so that we can find a good job at a nice international corporation, then we work so hard to climb the ladder in the team, in the department, and then maybe we expand our territories in the company. We try to earn more money, spend more time at work, and focus on career growth, to win a big title and reach a higher status. We were preoccupied with all the material stuff, we used our income to buy bigger houses, nice cars, enjoy luxury collections, but this does not help us to fulfill the emptiness in our minds.
People work constantly, doing things that do not necessarily fulfill the purpose of their personal existence, but at the same time, people are constantly looking to the future, dreaming of a future when they no longer have to work and can do whatever they want to do. I have been in the same mindset, selling my life to different companies for money, but I have not paid attention or looked for the meaning of my life. I felt so empty after a long day of work each day for many years, so I tried to use alcohol to reduce my stress, after a few years I started to become addicted to it. It was a bit scary and unhealthy for me and I did not find the way out. Even though I had been following my beliefs to be nice to people, to be generous to others, and to be kind to everybody, I still felt my mind was dried out.
When we do not correspond to what we want to do in life, we will waste unnecessary energy on many things, and when you have the opportunity to do what you want to do in the future, you may not have enough time or strength to complete it.
On 15th April 2019, after hours of the Notre-Dame de Paris fire, my seven years relationship suddenly ended. I felt I was fully burned as ash, I was depressed for a long time, and felt so worthless….
I started to travel, visit different places, drink more alcohol, work harder and meet more people. I tried to reduce my inner pain and it did not work at all. Until the 2020 Spring, the Covid-19 forced the whole world to shut down and everyone stayed at home to face themselves. It was time for me to start thinking about the meaning of my life and why I exist as a human being.
I started to learn Philosophical dialogue in the summer of 2020 online, and I learned myself better, then I slightly accepted myself….
Yes, I am stupid, I keep making mistakes, I still making wrong decisions, but “SO WHAT?” This is my life, I accept my limitations, I do whatever I want to do and whatever I can do. Then everything is fine, right?
As soon as a person begins to know why he exists, it is difficult for him/her not to fulfill his/her goals, both emotionally and in action.
If we spend just fifteen minutes a day thinking with ourselves, we can learn that every day is an opportunity to do whatever we want to do.
Think about it, every day I have the opportunity to fulfill the answers I give myself when I ask myself questions, and this fulfills the purpose of my own existence, and I don’t have to wait until I retire to do that. I enjoy thinking, I make decisions, and I begin to act on my personal will.
Before I rescue others I have to rescue myself. I think during this one and a half years of philosophical practice, I have slightly recovered, and I would like to help others when people need help.
Please feel free to send me your questions, I am willing to have a chat with you. Let’s think, drink and have fun together!
After some time to think and self-reflection, I ask myself these 3 questions again, I have got an answer for it now, it might change at any moment but who cares? As long as I am staying thinking status and being flexible.
1. Why are you here? I am here to enjoy life and stay thinking.
2. Do you fear death? No, I have already made my inheritance distribution and written my last words. I am doing the things I enjoy doing, so I am not afraid of death, I am only afraid of physical pain.
3. Are you fulfilled? Not yet, I am in the progress of self-fulfilling.
And you? Would you like to think together? I am curious!
1. Why are you here?
2. Do you fear death?
3. Are you fulfilled?
